Now that I think about it, I’ve had my heart broken by three men. Joseph was my best friend in college, my brother of choosing, a soul mate! He started dating an ex girlfriend of mine. Early on she made the mistake of telling him “Ernest is who I want, you are who I deserve.”. The friendship between the three of us quickly fell apart. It was only a matter of time before he was forced to choose between her and I. She got “whom she deserved” and I lost my best friend. Male frienships are hard to establish, and heart wrenching when they vanish. We don’t recover well, and we never talk about it. We refuse to feel a sense of loss for another man. A type of homophia I did not understand when I was young. How stupid we men are to ignore that love exists between friends.